Conflicting Engagement
February 18th, 2025
Conflicting Engagement
Blog post #1
Inmates use conflict management to deal with confrontations in everyday life (Gathright, 1999). When inmates go into society, they use these tools for business and personal life. I believe this is something that should be taught in schools for all ages. This may prevent some from becoming inmates. The inmates get the information for free. So, why not provide it for free for all mankind? With that, the teaching should also be home-based. It may seem a little too late once a person receives jail time, but it may enhance a bright future for them if they truly use the tools given in their everyday life.
The eight conflict management skills described below are:
1. Attend to the Relationship Level of Meaning
Focus on all emotional cues
2. Communicate Supportively
Use active listening and empathy
3. Listen Mindfully
Pay close attention to someone’s perspective
4. Take Responsibility for Your Thoughts, Feelings, and Issues
Take ownership
5. Check Perceptions
Confirm understanding
6. Look for Points of Agreement
Identify common ground
7. Look for Ways to Preserve the Other’s Face
Protect the reputation of others
8. Imagine How You’ll Feel in the Future
Predict your experienced future
Sometimes, conflict can be a feeling of hopelessness. Whether it’s because there is a lack of understanding of the process or a person is not willing to resolve the conflict, tools should be given so that there are no excuses when faced with choices. Furthermore, not knowing how to manage conflict does not excuse behaviors. Conflict management explanations are set up to be dissected for understanding so that future students can use them in their everyday lives.
Reference
Gathright, G. (1999). Conflict Management in Prisons: An Educator’s Perspective. Journal of Correctional Education, 50(4), 142–147.
Conflicting Engagement
Blog post #2
We are all bound to unity in conflict (Ituma & Peters, 2021).
Understanding conflict styles and applying techniques for conflict resolution is important in effective interpersonal communication.
The three conflict orientations are:
1. Lose-Lose
This means that no one gets what they want, and there is no compromising at all. This is a very unhealthy choice.
2. Win-Lose
This means that only one party gets what they want. This usually takes place when one or both people look at the conflict as a competition.
3. Win-Win
Compromise plays a vital role when both parties can agree. In a marriage, it shows love and respect
A church in Nigeria did not comprehend conflict management, which caused them not to defend themselves against violent attacks from rival religions (Ituma & Peters, pg. 1, 2021). Luke 12:49–59 breaks down how there is a purpose to conflict. Learning from conflict promotes growth. The bible passage explains conflict in a way that promotes more than one way of conflict management.
Matthew 5:25-26 talks about agreeing with the adversary when while being in the wrong (Ituma & Peters, pg. 3, 2021)
A person agreeing with someone who they knowingly caused conflict against keeps them from experiencing the negative side of the law. With that, some negative conflict can leave an aggressor to future resolutions.
Showing empathy, displaying active listening, understanding of one perspective and respect are ways to handle conflict effectively.
Respecting a person’s values does not mean that you always agree but that you understand their point.
Understanding the reasoning for a person’s negative and positive outcomes is a great measure to have when communicating.
Understanding how a person may feel in the future helps to balance conversation with greater empathy and active listening while recapping another’s perception on the matter at hand.
Unity in communication is the key to a great relationship. Unity during communication conflict does not always mean agreement, but a flow of communication that can be respected.
Reference
Ituma, E. A., & Peters, P. E. (2021). The approach of conflict in Luke 12:49--59 through Form Criticism and its application in Nigerian churches. Verbum et Ecclesia, 42(1), 1–6. https://doi.org/10.4102/ve.v42i1.2208
Conflicting Engagement
Blog post #3
Learning someone’s values may be time-consuming but may also save their life.
Some people commit suicide because they are not understood.
Four reasons that a person may end their life
Lack of money
Loss of job
Medical issues
Failed relationships
Trauma-inducing behaviors sometimes stem from that lack of conflict resolution in someone’s life. Usually, the actions of a person have an underlying issue. Why would a person give up? If they had none of the above reasons, would they still be loved?
A person who has or has been a victim of someone with emotional imbalance could result in:
Alcohol abuse
Drug addiction
Unhealthy relationships
Unproductive conflict (Wood, 2019)
According to Interpersonal Communication: Everyday Encounters (9th ed.), a person who lacks emotional connections are more likely to experience three things:
a heart attack
a stroke
dementia
Having conflict without understanding how to handle at hand situations may cause loss of long- and short-term relationships. Some business relationships end because a person may not know how to separate emotions.
Six things understanding conflict teaches us:
1. Patience
2. Empathy
3. Culture differences
4. Difference in perspectives
5. How to maintain a calm demeanor
6. How to focus on the problem and not the person
Understanding conflict teaches us what is working well and what is not working well for ourselves and others in a group setting. Whether it’s work or family, in a group setting, using the same conflict management tools can resolve communicative concerns.
Moreover, having conflict can mean an opportunity for growth. Adapting conflict management skills cannot only help save someone from going to prison, but it may also result in unity while saving a life.
Reference:
Wood, J. T. (2019). Interpersonal Communication: Everyday Encounters (9th ed.). Cengage Learning US. https://purdueuniversityglobal.vitalsource.com/books/9798214346243
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